Don't OFF your children!

Today's Therapy post is for the month of October. Down Syndrome Awareness month.

I know a lot people who still have the idea that people with disabilities should be wiped from the face of the planet. To eliminate the extra cost of Government provided health care. Or even the idea that the world could be a better place with out these special little angels roaming around it.

I hate to say. So many people are aborting their children because of one very inaccurate testing called the triple screen. I opted out of these with all of my pregnancy's. The first child the Doctor actually asked me if I would abort a child if I knew anything was wrong with it. I said No and the next pregnancy it wasn't even offered. And yes. My son has Down Syndrome. Had I known before he would still be my son like he is today.

He has not been a burden. He has been a great blessing. I see the frustrations of year round tests. Financial difficulties and the inability to make him understand sometimes. Would I change it. No.

It just saddens me that people rely on such a test to determine that the love for their children can not exceed the idea of one extra chromosome.

So please people consider this. Most of the children born with DS is because there was something wrong with you. Not them. So be it the sperm or the egg that was just not quite perfect....No one offed you. Please don't off them.

I love my son. I would do it all again.

"I needed to know I did my best..."

I have watched a friends marriage fall apart. Whole heartedly she smeared dirty laundry about her spouse on a very public forum. Labeling him as the "cheater". While having her own liaisons. Some how I don't think you were really trying your best.

I see many times that what people like to accuse others of are the things that they are doing themselves as if calling one out on their poor behaviors some how edifies one own wrong doing.

Another saying goes 2 wrongs do not make a right. Making something even does not even make it right.

What was yesterdays scarlet letter is today's Facebook. Myspace and Twitter. We don't throw stones. We throw publicly posted messages for the world to see.

I have a better idea...

May the one with out sin cast the first stone....May the one being stoned find a way to for give those throwing the stones....and may the one who keeps their temptations at hand stone themselves.

Some mans theory..

Today I had lunch with my mother and I was enjoying her company I hear a man over my shoulder trying to give a younger man his opinion of women and relationships.

The older man said. "A man can chase a woman as long as he wants to and that is normal, but a woman who chases a man is desperate." I found this interesting although I rolled my eyes and laughed a little to myself.

If it is desperate to seek out what you want and to feel passionate about it and know what it is that you want then I find it a little hypocritical. Men are far more often the ones to get restraining orders against them, rape some one, burgle or steal and assault. How is that not desperation for needs and wants?

A woman's heart my be desperate but they are far more in control of the desperation then men I believe. Go ahead and preach on sir. I am sorry that maybe your significant other did not love you in the ways that her heart was desperate to be with you. Want you more than anything else in the moment for you to find out that it is indeed not desperation... It is the ability to show your true emotions and feelings. Not be ashamed of them and the ability to show them to someone else.

Women are not desperate, they are passionate and strong willed.

Life is not about waiting for the things you want to happen to you but to make them happen for you.

Time for a new therapy session!

I don't understand how someone can constantly blog that their life, marriage, living situation is crap...when they are the ones seeking a relationship outside of marriage. When they constantly are writing bad checks knowing that they are doing just that and then needing the sympathy so much that they plaster it all over facebook.

Like tissues...the pity will run out girl! No one will sympathise with you any more about how you thought your hubby had an affair and he didn't so you thought that you would go out and have a few of your own. Only to have him adorn you very publicly to the point that we are getting cyber cavities and watch you literally throw your life away for a few quick flings.

This isn't happiness. It is life. The ups the downs the trials the constant heartache. It is you who decided what you will make your life. Sadly you are taking the slide.

Sometimes we say things like men are dogs. I believe this. Sometimes they are cruel and looking to hump anything they can get up against and they never change.

Sometimes they are loyal and loving and no matter how much you beat them...they keep coming back.

Sometimes you can't have the control that you like and you send them away. They go to a new family only for you to wish that you would have kept them cause they were indeed your true companion.

Living a lie...

This is not an easy task. He said she said, they said it to who and keeping it all straight. Isn't it much easier to live the truth up front that try to constantly hide behind a lie. Keeping track of what you've said and making it look real.

A wise person once said. "I can handle the truth no matter what it is verses being stabbed by a lie" Brutal honesty may hurt. But it is at least truth.

When you have told your self a lie so many time that even you believe it, you can no longer live life as it is mean to be.

Day 1...

Do you ever go through out life having moments when you see everyone and the weird things they do and just think "This is why I NEED therapy!?" Well I decided this is my therapy. It si free affordable and who knows who may come along here and decide YOUR RIGHT! So therapy here we come!